1. You should understand that the term "Asian women" is very broad and contains a lot of sub-categories. Most Western guys think the "Asian women" label refers only to Japanese or Chinese women. The term Asian actually includes over include 40 different nationalities and ethnic groups. There are many variations in the Philippines alone, where there's been a lot of mixing of different cultures over the centuries. (For example, some filipinas you meet will have more of a "Latina" look due to the Spanish influence, while others have a more "oriental" look due to the Chinese influence.)
You should also never mention that you have dated other Asian women in the past. This isn't going to make her think that you "understand" her. There's actually a pretty good chance that it will make her suspicious. Asian women (especially those who live in the West) are creeped out by the idea of guys who have "yellow fever" (i.e. they have a fetish for Asian women). She wants to be appreciated for her own unique qualities.
2. The stereotype that Beautiful Asian women are meek and submissive is generally false, however Asian women do want a masculine man -- one who can play the role of the provider and protector. This is a huge reason why Western guys find Asian women so appealing -- and will often never go back to Western women once they've had relationships with Asian girls. They are purely feminine, and desire a man who exudes masculinity.So, when you're with an Asian woman, the worst thing you can be is clingy and emotionally needy. Asian guys do not act this way. Asian girls want to know that their man is emotionally strong and capable of making her feel safe and secure. They are turned off by men who are overly sensitive and can't control their emotions.
3. Be a gentleman with a bit of a "bad boy" edge. Cool Hollywood movie stars are worshipped in Asia -- the guys who are strong, masculine and can take care of business, but have a boyish charm and a softer side. Think about the onscreen personalities of Harrison Ford, Keanu Reeves, Leonardo Dicaprio, Matt Damon, Brad Pitt, and George Clooney. (All of them are revered in Asia.) You must be confident and emotionally stable. Asian women are turned off by insecure, angry or jealous men.
4. Next, it is very important for you to intelligent and preferably well-educated. Asian culture puts a strong emphasis on education and wisdom. It will also help you to attract more Asian women if you have a variety of interests and hobbies that you are passionate about. Give her the sense that by spending time with you, she will grow as a person, learn new things, and enjoy new experiences.
5. When you're out in public with an Asian woman, be on your best behavior. Men who are loud, rude or too "showy" are not going to be successful with beautiful Asian women. Also, be extremely courteous and show that you are concerned about her comfort and well-being. Little gestures, like helping them to remove their coat or helping them get seated at a restaurant table, make a very good impression.
6. Demonstrate some familiarity with her country, its culture, and her religion. Having an appreciation for her native cuisine is also very helpful. If she is Westernized, she probably eats Western food, generally--but when she's with her family, they surely still cook their favorite exotic dishes. Learning to cook one of her favorite ethnic meals for her will score you big points.
7. Next, a quick word of advice for you guys who are meeting Asian women on internet dating sites: you need to see her on webcam as soon as possible. There are literally millions of women on these websites who are searching for a foreign boyfriend or husband -- which is fine if their intentions are honest, but in many cases they're only looking to score financial support for themselves and their families. Some girls will use phony profile pictures; if the girl looks TOO gorgeous in her pic, it may not be her! And if she makes up excuses why she can't chat with you on a webcam, she's probably trying to hide something. Practically all of the internet cafes in Asia nowadays have webcams which are extremely cheap to use. If she won't show herself to you, it's probably because she looks nowhere near as good as she does in her picture -- or "she" might actually be a "he!"
8. Never give Asian women the sense that you are a "playboy" who dates different women and isn't interested in having a serious relationship with anyone. Asian girls want to know that there at least a CHANCE of you getting serious with her. You don't need to talk about any of this heavy "relationship stuff" when you're first getting to know her, but you definitely don't want to give her the impression that you're only looking for fun with no strings attached. (In the Philippines, they call these men "butterflies" -- always flittering from one flower to the next.)
10. Here's my last tip on being attractive to Asian women: accept and understand that they have extremely close ties to their families. Don't tell her that she needs to be more independent and ignore their advice or wishes. This can be tough, because there may be times when you want to spend time with your girl but it always seems like she has family commitments. Getting seriously involved with an Asian girl from an impoverished family can also cause problems, as she may expect you to help her family with money (and when you start down this path, the financial requests will never end!). That being said, you simply need to be aware that Asian families are much more tight-knit and dependent upon each other that your typical disfunctional family in the West. If you're serious about an Asian girl, you'll also need to be respectul of her family. If they embrace you, then there is no question that your Asian girl will love and appreciate you deeply.
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